i have a date next week. a date that i need to get out of. one of my friends just went out with the guy and had a pretty miserable time.
i know what you're thinking, i shouldn't blow him off because of that, but trust me, if she had a miserable time, i will have a miserable time. i wasn't really interested in the guy in the first place. we haven't been communicating for all that long, and mostly i thought 'good for him, he's asking a girl out. what the hell?' i wanted to encourage that kind of behavior in general. but this is looking bad. the report was bad--not to mention that some of the 'specifics' my friend cited, are things that particularly grate on my nerves.
if i have to go on a miserable date, i think i may join a convent. so how do i get out of this? i don't want to be dishonest, but i also don't want to say 'my friend went out with you and said you are a terrible date.'
boys, where's the middle ground?
2 comments:
Rejection is rejection. It's going to hurt whether you lie or not.
In his position I'd prefer blunt honesty.
At least then he isn't left picking apart every bit of his personality looking for the flaw.
Your candor will enable him to focus on the most irritating bits.
Knowing what the specific issue was might help us give better advice.
Even if it hurts a bit, above all I prefer open honesty to holding on trying to figure out the situation. Someone well put it when saying that guys are oblivious - and we cant read minds - so just tell us.
On the plus side, after knowing whats what we can move on to another potential, and sometimes, even still be good friends with the prior.
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