okay, answer me this: when the boy you are supposedly 'in a relationship with' (his words) doesn't call you for a week, nor respond to a text message here or there (not even remotely close to stalking), do you:
A. cut him some slack, knowing that he is simultaneously dealing with a family crisis and traveling for his work,
or
B. RUN
if it's not obvious, this is the strange and unexpected predicament i now find myself in. and before you ask, there is no great big bad thing that happened between us that would warrant the silent treatment, nor any minutely tiny bad thing, as far as i know. so now i'm torn between wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt and not wanting to be the stupid girl who just isn't getting the hint.
so what say ye, A or B?
5 comments:
I would say neither. You need to wait to see what is going on, but let him know that it is important to you to hear from him even when he is busy. Be honest, but decide how you want to be treated and stick to it. And my second rule is "Don't stalk boys". :)
I agree with Heidi. When things eventually calm down for him and you hear from him, just give him the old "I care about you...next time..." talk and then let him know that although he's busy and overwhelmed, you need and want to hear from him, even if it's just a simple text or a one-line email. It's important. I hope everything's okay on all fronts! Keep us posted.
I suppose I'm still more cynical (I can hear several arguments about my current marital status that make my opinion worth less but! I shall soldier on). I would say position yourself in the starting block but wait to hear the gunshot before the sprint. There is a possibility of an explanation, especially with the great distance issue, but we both know about signs.
Brian's choice is A. Cut him some slack.
As for me, I agree with everyone above. Hang tight and see if he has a good explanation. Considering his current circumstances it seems like he truly is overwhelmed and distracted.
Oh gosh. A! A! AAAAAAAAA!!!!
For crying out loud, he is a BOY, not a girl. So don't apply our weird girl behaviors to him! I know it's hard not to, but just remember they are totally different breeds from us!
Remember in all these comments so far? "Brian's choice is A." Listen to the boy on this.
Seriously Tara, a huge recommend: read the book "Mars and Venus on a Date." It was recommended to me by three roommates who all read it and promised to follow its teachings. All three were married within a year.
It's the very same book I was so grateful for when I dated Evan (which was with a completely different attitude than I had with any other guy).
Read the parts in the book about guys who "rubber band."
(Sorry for the long comment. Maybe this would be a good time for us to meet up?) :)
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