a monday worth posting about

corey and jill returned from their honeymoon on friday and tried to avoid me all weekend. the nerve!

finally, i guilt tripped them in to letting come see their new married abode last night. though there aren't many recently returned honeymooning friends i would dare to see so soon, these two are the exception. we enjoyed dinner and catching up, and i loved having the opportunity to hear about all the little behind-the-scenes wedding details. mostly though, i just loved spending time with them.

sometimes it can be difficult being a single girl with single friends, and having to transition to single girl with married friends. i find that typically when friends get engaged, i withdraw. inevitably, i just feel like i am intruding, and i respect that it is a time of great change and re-prioritizing. as such, it is interesting to look back and see where marriage killed a friendship, and where it allowed it to fluorish. though unfair, i put the responsibility more on the soon to be or already married friends. i guess i just figure that my schedule is more flexible, so i wait for their phone calls.

corey and jill have been outstanding about making efforts to keep me in their lives. during their engagement, i often got phone calls inviting me to dinner, even though i basically stopped initiating such gatherings.

and every time i joined them, i never found it awkward or uncomfortable. i never felt like a third wheel, but instead always passed the time laughing and engaging in one another's lives. though i did not expect that would change with the exchange of vows, it was still a relief to have that affirmed.

i seriously love spending time with these two.

(this pic is apparently jill's favorite)

i recently realized that with my continued lack of interest in singles activities, the balance will soon shift, and i will have more married friends than single ones. i'm not sure that gets me any closer to my goal of finding my own partner, but at the same time, i find that my relationships are becoming more meaningful, and i am connecting to people in a way that is new for me.

i have a feeling this is just the first of many new things in the months ahead, so i guess it's time to get used to the idea!