the only songs i never 'skip' on my ipod:
little red corvette-prince
faith-george michael
walking in memphis-marc cohn
we built this city-starship
it's an errant thought with little significance, i was simply amused when it occurred to me.
happy sunday to all, and to all, a good week.
Sunday, January 28, 2007
Friday, January 26, 2007
dating (tara) for dummies
in no particular order, and compiled as a result of varying experiences...
1. get to know me. ask me questions about myself. then repeat something i’ve said back to me so that i know you actually listened to my answers. i promise, i will ask you questions too, and i will listen to the answers. then we both get to talk about ourselves and to learn about each other.
2. call me sometimes. don’t wait for an invitation, or to see what my online status is. just call me when you want to talk to me, whether it is 8am in the morning, in the middle of the day, or if you just want to say good night. if i can pick up, i will. if i can’t, i will call you back.
3. tell me you like me. often. and don’t include a body part other than my brain when you tell me why you like me.
4. send me random notes to tell me you are thinking about me. im, text message, email, snail mail...it doesn’t matter.
5. ask me to recommend something to read. then read it.
6. express a desire and make an effort to spend time with me.
7. err on the side of ‘there is no such thing as too much information.’ give me more information than you think i want or need (i.e. ‘well, first, i got out of bed, then i brushed my teeth’. or ‘i don’t think you are as funny as you think you are.’) i’ll tell you when enough is enough, and you will have scored points in the process.
8. be a gentleman, not a 'gentle' man. be nice to me. open doors. offer to pay...every once in awhile i'll let you. treat people of little consequence to you with respect. be courteous to your waitress when she screws up your order. but don't be a wimp. be a man. know when to put me on a pedastal and when to knock me off it (figuratively, of course). be a mechanic and a poet.
9. it is never too soon to send flowers. if you aren't sure what kind of message to send me, send me tulips. they are my favorite, and the only message they convey is 'i thought about you. have a nice day.'
10. if we haven't met yet, buy me a plane ticket, or come see me. if it doesn't go well, i'll split it with you. if it does go well, i'll buy the next one. but! if you are not anxious to meet me, don't waste my time.
and the bonus!
11. make sure that your words are consistent with your actions. in other words, put up or shut up.
1. get to know me. ask me questions about myself. then repeat something i’ve said back to me so that i know you actually listened to my answers. i promise, i will ask you questions too, and i will listen to the answers. then we both get to talk about ourselves and to learn about each other.
2. call me sometimes. don’t wait for an invitation, or to see what my online status is. just call me when you want to talk to me, whether it is 8am in the morning, in the middle of the day, or if you just want to say good night. if i can pick up, i will. if i can’t, i will call you back.
3. tell me you like me. often. and don’t include a body part other than my brain when you tell me why you like me.
4. send me random notes to tell me you are thinking about me. im, text message, email, snail mail...it doesn’t matter.
5. ask me to recommend something to read. then read it.
6. express a desire and make an effort to spend time with me.
7. err on the side of ‘there is no such thing as too much information.’ give me more information than you think i want or need (i.e. ‘well, first, i got out of bed, then i brushed my teeth’. or ‘i don’t think you are as funny as you think you are.’) i’ll tell you when enough is enough, and you will have scored points in the process.
8. be a gentleman, not a 'gentle' man. be nice to me. open doors. offer to pay...every once in awhile i'll let you. treat people of little consequence to you with respect. be courteous to your waitress when she screws up your order. but don't be a wimp. be a man. know when to put me on a pedastal and when to knock me off it (figuratively, of course). be a mechanic and a poet.
9. it is never too soon to send flowers. if you aren't sure what kind of message to send me, send me tulips. they are my favorite, and the only message they convey is 'i thought about you. have a nice day.'
10. if we haven't met yet, buy me a plane ticket, or come see me. if it doesn't go well, i'll split it with you. if it does go well, i'll buy the next one. but! if you are not anxious to meet me, don't waste my time.
and the bonus!
11. make sure that your words are consistent with your actions. in other words, put up or shut up.
notes from the universe
not long ago, a co-worker turned me on to a site that will send you notes from the universe. a daily email, with a little tidbit of some sort.
some days are more amusing than others.
this is what the universe had to say to me today:
How could it be difficult, challenging or hard, Tara, when so many others have done it?
You know, anything. For instance, to move.
funny, right?
anne's was equally on point.
in other news, i am sorry to disappoint those of you who have been amused by my 'tales from online', but i am officially taking an online dating hiatus. chalk it up to increased frustration and decreased tolerance, but i'm done for awhile, or forever. i don't really know yet.
some days are more amusing than others.
this is what the universe had to say to me today:
How could it be difficult, challenging or hard, Tara, when so many others have done it?
You know, anything. For instance, to move.
funny, right?
anne's was equally on point.
in other news, i am sorry to disappoint those of you who have been amused by my 'tales from online', but i am officially taking an online dating hiatus. chalk it up to increased frustration and decreased tolerance, but i'm done for awhile, or forever. i don't really know yet.
Thursday, January 25, 2007
open invite
friday night, 9:45, reston towncenter, chick flick: 'catch and release'
dinner at uno's, 7:30.
email or call me if you're in.
dinner at uno's, 7:30.
email or call me if you're in.
karina, karina
while yesterday's post focused on largely on someone i have known for a very long time, and know well, today's post focuses on someone who is a virtual stranger. except not.
a couple of years ago, almost two, to be exact, i went to utah to visit family and some friends i had made online. while there, i was at a social function , and found myself in the kitchen talking to a girl i had never met before. her name was heather, and she had spent time in the dc area. we had many mutual friends, and even beyond that, there was an instant connection between us.
there are moments. they are few and far between, but they happen. moments when the eternal wheels click into place and start to turn. in these moments, there is a recognition that defies logic. and it is always mutual. you know, and they know, that you have each met someone who is going to change your life, simply by being a part of it. it's not that they will alter your path or your destiny in obvious ways, necessarily, but a divine purpose will be served. in these moments, coincidence becomes obsolete.
meeting heather in the kitchen at a stranger's house was one of those moments. however, the most fascinating thing about that moment, is that it generated another such moment with another person. prior to that experience, i have never felt such a strong connection with two different people in such a limited time frame (only minutes apart!).
it was through heather that i met karina. karina and i sat down on a couch, and didn't leave it for the remainder of the night. as we related our life stories to one another, there were enummerable parallels and an uncommon understanding. she and i both knew we had found a wonderful new friend in eachother.
since that meeting two years ago, our communication has been sporadic at best. life is life, and it is easy to lose sight of what is important. for months, karina and i have tried to actually have a phone conversation, but our timing has been incredibly bad. last night, we were finally able to connect, and it was if not one day had passed since last we spoke. as we recounted our experiences over the last year, we could have each told the other's story. though the timing had been different, our experiences bear shocking similarities.
our conversation lasted for hours, and reminded me of that special connection. that feeling of knowing someone without knowing them has happened to me a grand total of 7 times. each time, it was powerful--hence the reason i can so clearly recall the frequency. 3 of those people are 3 of my best friends and have been for years. 3 of them are still virtual strangers, who i would do anything for. only one of them have i dated, but since most of them are girls, that is probably for the best;)
at any rate, i am thrilled to have karina back in the forefront of my thoughts. and in fact, i may have even convinced her to move to london with deb and i! now THAT would be something!
i'm also thrilled that i will have a chance to reconnect with heather when i'm in utah in march (which ironically, will be our exact 2 year anniversary date of meeting), and assuming i do ever make it to london, i plan to spend a lot of time with louise--whether she likes it or not:)
all this to say, i am grateful for the people in my life. the friends and family who know me well and still put up with me, and the relative strangers who's brief appearances in my life, leave indelible impressions.
a couple of years ago, almost two, to be exact, i went to utah to visit family and some friends i had made online. while there, i was at a social function , and found myself in the kitchen talking to a girl i had never met before. her name was heather, and she had spent time in the dc area. we had many mutual friends, and even beyond that, there was an instant connection between us.
there are moments. they are few and far between, but they happen. moments when the eternal wheels click into place and start to turn. in these moments, there is a recognition that defies logic. and it is always mutual. you know, and they know, that you have each met someone who is going to change your life, simply by being a part of it. it's not that they will alter your path or your destiny in obvious ways, necessarily, but a divine purpose will be served. in these moments, coincidence becomes obsolete.
meeting heather in the kitchen at a stranger's house was one of those moments. however, the most fascinating thing about that moment, is that it generated another such moment with another person. prior to that experience, i have never felt such a strong connection with two different people in such a limited time frame (only minutes apart!).
it was through heather that i met karina. karina and i sat down on a couch, and didn't leave it for the remainder of the night. as we related our life stories to one another, there were enummerable parallels and an uncommon understanding. she and i both knew we had found a wonderful new friend in eachother.
since that meeting two years ago, our communication has been sporadic at best. life is life, and it is easy to lose sight of what is important. for months, karina and i have tried to actually have a phone conversation, but our timing has been incredibly bad. last night, we were finally able to connect, and it was if not one day had passed since last we spoke. as we recounted our experiences over the last year, we could have each told the other's story. though the timing had been different, our experiences bear shocking similarities.
our conversation lasted for hours, and reminded me of that special connection. that feeling of knowing someone without knowing them has happened to me a grand total of 7 times. each time, it was powerful--hence the reason i can so clearly recall the frequency. 3 of those people are 3 of my best friends and have been for years. 3 of them are still virtual strangers, who i would do anything for. only one of them have i dated, but since most of them are girls, that is probably for the best;)
at any rate, i am thrilled to have karina back in the forefront of my thoughts. and in fact, i may have even convinced her to move to london with deb and i! now THAT would be something!
i'm also thrilled that i will have a chance to reconnect with heather when i'm in utah in march (which ironically, will be our exact 2 year anniversary date of meeting), and assuming i do ever make it to london, i plan to spend a lot of time with louise--whether she likes it or not:)
all this to say, i am grateful for the people in my life. the friends and family who know me well and still put up with me, and the relative strangers who's brief appearances in my life, leave indelible impressions.
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