public service announcement

christmas is coming.

you're welcome.

okay in all seriousness, or in part seriousness anyway, gifting is tough for me. it's hard to pick out the right gift for someone, and somehow it's even harder to tell someone what i want. a common conversation around birthdays and gift giving holidays goes like this:

other person: what do you want
me: i don't know. nothing really
other person: come on, seriously
me: seriously, there's nothing. you know, when i want something i just buy it for myself

i don't know why this conversation happens, i always want stuff. i have an entire bookmarked folder labeled 'i want that', with a sub-folder labeled 'i want it now.' one would think i would just delve into the folder to find something reasonable and make it easy on the 'other person', but no, instead i always tell them there's nothing i want.

recently, i've been updating my boxedup account. it's a wishlist type service where you can grab things off the web and indicate your desire to have them. mostly i've been updating because it's a good way to prioritize, and while amazon sells ALMOST everything, there are a few other sites i visit. so, for the 1-2 of you readers who might be considering a christmas gift with my name on it, conveniently located on my sidebar is the boxedup widget, where you can see what i am lusting after, or you can visit the site at www.boxedup.com/tara3. don't be deterred by the fact that there are a couple of pricey items on top--there are much less expensive ones as you go...although if you want to help me get closer to my pricey items, gift cards are always welcome.

and if you happen to be one of the 1-2 people this will matter to, it would be really great if you'd create your own wishlist somewhere and then tell me about it so i don't end up looking or feeling like a chump.

this concludes today's public service announcement. i'll try to go back to once a week blogging again :)

other stuff

you know that book 'the secret'? i've never read it, but random people have told me random things about it, and if i remember correctly, someone told me once that one of the examples in the book was that if you wanted to get married, you had to sleep on one side of the bed and leave some space in your closet for your non-existent future spouse visualization to work. anybody read it? do i have that right? if so, i might be in trouble. i've always slept on one side of the bed, so i'm fine there. but my closets are full, and beyond that, i'm completely settling in to my new place.

and by settling, i don't just mean unpacking. i spent my saturday purchasing bathroom fixtures (towel rods, toilet paper holders, etc.) and replacing the current ones. i also have a mind to replace the medicine cabinet and light fixture. it just has so much potential!

i also went searching for window treatments, and this is completely new and overwhelming for me. the last few places i've lived have either had wooden shutters or roll up shades, but the new place had these horrible awful no good very bad vertical blinds. if they were full length, MAYBE that would have been ok, but my window is about 70 inches wide by 36 inches tall, and the blinds were old and yellowish and had this gross plasticy valance thing. it was the one thing i actually hated about my room and knew i wanted to change. i've been looking at options for a couple of weeks to replace the nastiness, but hadn't settled on a solution. i love the idea of roman shades, but after exhausting my google fingers, i still couldn't find any that 1) i particularly liked or 2) wouldn't have to be custom made for size. so i headed out to bed, bath, and beyond to see what i could see, and landed on a major score!

note: i recently replaced my bedding because 1) change is good, and 2) linens n' things is going out of business and had some great deals! the new color scheme is chocolate brown and blue. it's always been an appealing combo for me*, but the fact that it tied into my last scheme so well (the same blue and a sage green) made it easier to transition some of my matchy matchy stuff. i wandered into the window treatment area of the store and was getting a little frustrated. i was about to give up when i heard something. i'm not entirely sure what it was, but it sounded like angels singing. then out of the corner of my eye, i saw a light. when i turned, i was staring at the most perfect window panels ever. though made by a different company and located at a different store, these panels appeared to be made for my bedroom set. i looked at the price, and though slightly disheartened, i couldn't have hand sewn a more perfect match. so i selected a rod and went to make my purchase. which! is where i learned that my curtains were on clearance for 50% off. this my friends, is what we call destiny.

they are absolutely perfect and i'm really happy with the way the room is progressing, but what i'm wondering now 'secret' readers, is, have i sealed my single fate by settling in? am i doomed for a solitary life just because i want my room to look pretty?

*for those of you who may also find the chocolate/blue combo appealing, i discovered an entire website devoted to it today.

twilight

as a result of circumstances and timing i ended up seeing the 12:01 am showing of twilight on thursday night/friday morning, and my experience was mixed. i found that much like twilight: the book, i can't really explain why i liked twilight: the movie, but i did. enough to see it a second time in a couple of days. i've come up with a list of positives and negatives to help me sort through the dichotomy that is twilight.

on the negative...
1. jasper and jacob: jasper was by far the most poorly cast character. looking at him i was honestly baffled as to how he got this gig. can anyone say 'nepotism'? as for jacob, at the moment, i'm sad. i've always preferred him to edward, but this actor just isn't doing it for me. maybe by movie 2 when the character comes into his own i'll feel him a bit more, but i'm really skeptical at the moment.

2. money money money: i know this was low budget, and i didn't expect much. the two areas i felt could have been better approached, even on a low budget were carlisle's makeup and edward's twinkling. to the first, i just don't understand why 1) they made him so much paler than the others, and 2) where the makeup artist learned (or didn't learn) to blend. as cousin jenny pointed out 'i could SEE the line!' frankly, there's no excuse for that. as to the second, i just have to believe there was a better way to handle edward's 'i sparkle like diamonds in the sunshine' bit.

4. would you like crackers with that cheese: i knew the cheese factor would be high, although admittedly there was less than expected. however, when present, it was so sharp that it made me throw up a little in my mouth.

5. huge chunks of plotline/conversation left out: this is the fate of every book to movie journey, i know. but i felt like the bad guys vs. good guys portion of the story was inconsequential and irrelevant, included only to set a precedence for future plot lines, not because it actually had any merit on its own. i remember reading the books and feeling bella's fear while james terrorized her and edward's panic to protect her, but i felt none of that in the movie. i mean, so what he broke her leg. instead they spent sooo much time building the relationship portion, it was as if these other vamps were an afterthought. don't get me wrong, i loved the relationship building, i just thought the balance was off.

6. the soundtrack was trying to hard to be cool and failing (see #3 below for the one exception)

and on the positive...
1. edward, bella, alice, and jessica were all phenomenally cast: i'm semi-biased about pattinson because i had a crush on cedrick diggory long before he became edward cullen, but in general the casting was quite good. those named above are simply the 'stand outs' for me.

2. awesome chemistry between bella and edward: those stares gave me chills, and they definitely reminded me how intense and consuming it feels when you are a teenager in love.

3. a gorgeous piano piece (i downloaded it immediately - 'bella's lullaby', carter burwell) accompanying a perfect scene: honestly, if i had to pick one thing that sold the movie for me, it was this scene. i found it amazing that though there was no dialog and the scene was simply edward playing the piano for bella, you could feel her falling more in love with him. maybe i relate because i'm a sucker for men who play piano. i'd be falling more in love too!

4. huge chunks of plotline/conversation left out: it's no secret that in the book i found bella to be whiny and edward to be controlling. not having to hear bella's thoughts constantly, made me like her so much more! and rather than being a dominating chauvinist, edward got to be the white knight hero that he should have been in the book.

5. a few really great moments: there were some significant failures and some spectacular successes. i suppose to an extent i expected the failures, so the successes came as a wonderful surprise. there were a few moments i had to pause and acknowledge that something had been well played. standout moments for me included the baseball game (one of my favorite parts of the book), edward's sleep watching, billy's wheelchair antics, charlie (everything about charlie), and the scenes where edward and bella were talking, but all we heard was music. it was a brilliant way to advance the relationship without having to get too nitty gritty.

6. james looks like brad pitt, and that ain't bad.

now am i right, or am i right?

overall, i liked it. there is something to be said for low expectations, but given the parameters (a poorly written book and a low budget) i enjoyed the movie a great deal. i expect much more from the second movie, although despite my history with jacob, i am sort of sad now that edward will be missing for so much of the flick. that being said, i hope jacob can redeem himself, carlisle gets better makeup, somehow it will start making sense how jasper got cast, and that nobody messes with the stuff they got right this time around!

a (nother) letter to a friend

dear cyra,

it's been a year and i'm writing another letter. i guess that's probably a pretty good indication that your loss still affects me. maybe it always will, or maybe it's been worse lately because this day has been on my radar for awhile. or maybe it's worse because my new job has me constantly interacting with or having conversations about animals--and most often, other dogs. all of my co-workers have dogs and cats, and every time someone asks me 'the question', i have to pause in order to keep it together long enough to explain why i don't. sometimes i'm more successful than others, and sometimes it results in embarrassing moments in trade show booths. the upside is that as far as embarrassing moments go, it's the right people to have it with.

last weekend my company hosted a charity function to benefit the animal cancer foundation. it wasn't your average charity function though. no black ties, no dual plate meals, no boring speakers. instead, over 500 people came out to walk their dogs along the peninsula in long beach. between the 90 degree temps and the backdrop of the queen mary and shoreline lighthouse the day was perfect for a dog walk.


i was up early saturday morning to help coordinate all of the setup, but during the 'race', i was posted along the 'route' to help keep the walkers on the right path. the types and sizes and ages of both the dogs and their people were all over the board. young and old, small and big. some dogs walking their owners, some owners carrying their dogs, sometimes in arms, sometimes in wagons. but the most significant moment for me was a dog-less one.


a middle-aged couple passed me sans dog and i asked if they weren't missing something. i said it jokingly, assuming there would be a family member with pooch, straggling behind. instead they turned away from me and pointed at the back of their t-shirts. on them was a picture of a dog, with the caption 'in memory'.


i almost choked on the realization of how insensitive my question must have seemed. but more importantly i finally came to terms with something. i'm not crazy. i'm not crazy for being so attached to you that one year later i still think about you all the time, and often with tears. i'm not crazy for still sleeping on my side so you can curl into your little ball at my stomach. i'm not crazy for feeling a slight twinge of guilt every time i consider getting another dog. or maybe i am crazy, but i'm not alone. you are quite literally my puppy love. and i'm not the only one who knows what that feels like.


last year at this time i felt the need to justify my attachment to you, and to explain why my grieving was so deep. this year i just acknowledge that for me, an animal's life has high value and yours, was priceless. as i watched hundreds of people and their canine companions pass by me on Saturday, it occurred to me that as humans, we owe you that. your love and loyalty are unconditional, and as a species you protect us, you comfort us, you serve us. the very least thing we can do to thank you for that is to mourn your loss when you go.


i continue to feel that loss. thank you for everything you added to my life. for helping me be a little less selfish and for keeping me sane. it's not the same without you. i hope that wherever doggy heaven is, that you are getting lots of belly rubs and milk bones there!

week in review

been a doozy! between moving, a big work event, and a last minute trip to santa barbara, i'm still catching my breath.

truth be told, i couldn't get out of my old house fast enough, so every night last week was consumed with moving, moving, and more moving. my new home is only a mile or so from my last and yet somehow, worlds apart. being here has lifted a weight even heavier than i realized, and already i find myself nesting. the instinct has lain dormant for some time and there is nothing subtle about it's reappearance. at the moment, i'm pondering window treatments and redoing the bathroom. :)

on saturday morning i was up early (5am!) to head to long beach for my event. despite the early hour, i was excited for this one. i'll post more later when i get the pics uploaded from my other camera, but i found myself on more than one occasion thinking 'this is my JOB?!' in a good way, not in an ''oh no, what did i do?' way.

after the event and clean up were finished, i rushed home, dropped off the rental van, threw a bag together and headed to santa barbara.

the santa barbara trip was semi-spontaneous. not on par with the utah trip, but not too far behind. originally i was going to be heading up next weekend to spend some time with a friend, and finally check the monarch butterfly migration off my list, but when jesse the weatherman called on friday to suggest that the temperature might be more suitable this weekend than next, i decided it was worth a shot.

i was slightly hesitant given the state of both my starting and destination points. you see, we've been on fire, both here (and by 'here' i mean that we had air scrubbers brought into our office building to help minimize the headaches and nausea from the smoke) and there (by 'there' i mean that just past my destination exit, i glimpsed a sign that said 'caution. fire equipment ahead') .

given that being stopped in traffic regularly causes my engine temperature to sky rocket (broken fan) and road closures due to fires, my hesitation came primarily from fear of traffic. but jesse was on standby, checking the traffic and providing me with a clear route--which on a warm and gorgeous day, also happened to be a stunning drive.

i arrived in great time, although too late for butterflies, so instead we went for dinner at what i think is my favorite favorite eatery in the area. i specifically requested beach grill for dinner after having been there once last year. it's a toss up whether it's the phenomenal burger or the spectacular setting that is more appealing. this was the view from our picnic table:


the rest of the night was no less awesome, what with ice cream, followed by hot chocolate, followed by bond. tantamount to perfection, really.

i will say that i prefer casino royale over quantum of solace but that could change with a little bit more sleep.

sunday brought with it more goodness. sleeping in and good food and voyeurism. that's right, voyeurism.


though not quite in peak season, the monarchs were out in droves. it took awhile to adjust my eyes and realize that the leaves i had been looking at were actually completely covered in butterflies. but once i did, i was amazed at how many were there. from time to time some movement would cause some of the monarchs to take flight, and there were a couple truly magical moments. i need to head back in january when the numbers have swelled, and hopefully i have a longer lens!

overall, it was an awesome couple of days. spending time with jesse is in and of itself a highlight, but the weekend was full of them!