second of all, as referenced by steph in the above post, long distance relationships have their own particular brand of challenges, not the least of which is im. this wonderful tool we now have to stay in touch with a quick note or a smiley face just to let someone know you are thinking about them, can also be evil. evil i tell you!
the problem is that tone and inflection are not transmitted through text, and there are not enough emoticons to always convey the appropriate meaning. i found myself in a situation last night, where a comment came across im that sent me into a tizzy. the comment was not as important as the meaning i took from it, which was roughly that i didn't matter in the way i thought and hoped i mattered.
that converstaion was followed by a phone call in which i expressed my displeasure. he quickly explained his real meaning, and when i asked if he understood how i might have perceived it, his response was 'yes, i'm sorry. that wasn't my intention, i'm sorry if i hurt your feelings.'
now, i don't have a lot of respect for men who will roll over and say what you want to hear just because you want to hear it. i'm looking for an equal afterall, and that means someone who is strong, and who will stand their ground. but i am looking for a real man. and a real man knows what to apologize for, and when. and he does it sincerely. with that one 'i'm sorry' my respect for him increased exponentially.
and notice that he did not apologize for the comment--there was no real need. but he apologized that it was said in such a way that i could misunderstand it and be hurt by it. apparently all it takes for me is 2 minutes and 33 seconds.
third of all, in response to anne's comment from yesterday's post, please check out the eye candy below:
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